Written by Alice Child, Somatic Sexologist
Somatic Sexologist Alice Child gives her ultimate guide to sexual role and gives 6 top ideas for role play during sex!
This guide contains general advice only. If you need more tailored advice, please book in a session.
Imagine stepping into a doctor/patient scenario where one person takes charge and the other follows.
It's time to sexually role play!
Ready to spice things up? Sexual role play can add an exciting and novel new dimension to your sex life.
It's all about collaborating with your partner(s) to step into different roles or personas, whether that's for a playful moment of dirty talk or a whole kinky scene.
Role play can range from elaborate setups with costumes, characters, and even scripts to more subtle, spontaneous moments of fantasy. The beauty of it lies in its versatility—it's all about finding what excites and connects you both.
It’s not just fun; it can be deeply bonding and even therapeutic, letting you explore new facets of yourself and your deepest desires in a safe, erotic space.
It also helps couples spice up their sex life and explore new energies and dynamics in their sex life, even after 20 years.
So keep reading to discover six popular and fun role play ideas!
1. First time
Imagine it’s the very first time you’re exploring intimacy—whether it's your first time together or you’re reliving that first date excitement.
Embrace that thrilling blend of anticipation and nervous energy as you discover each other’s bodies and desires anew. This fresh, exploratory mindset can add an exciting twist to your experience, making every touch and kiss feel like a new adventure.
2. Predator and Prey Play
Tap into your primal instincts with a thrilling predator/prey scenario. This role play invites you to explore your wild side and erotically play with power, embracing the excitement of the chase.
Picture yourself stalking, pursuing, and playfully pouncing as you let your inner animal come out to play. Growls, bites, and playful scratches can all heighten the sense of adventure and intensity.
This type of role play can be an exhilarating way to connect and explore deeper aspects of desire. Just make sure you both establish a safe word before you dive in—keeping communication open ensures that everyone feels secure and enjoys the experience to the fullest.
Pillow Play, (my online sex and intimacy games for couples!) offers a chance for you to enjoy the thrill of predator and pray Game 7 - X marks the spot! Can you find and kiss the X on your partner's body? Enjoy the excitement of the chase and playful fighting in this steamy game.
3. Naughty Massage Therapist
Imagine indulging in a luxurious massage that gradually takes a deliciously naughty turn.
Picture yourself sinking into relaxation as your professional massage transforms into a tantalizing experience. Embrace the excitement of crossing boundaries and exploring the playful side of what's typically "allowed" in a session.
The slow build of arousal and the blend of taboo and pleasure can make for an incredibly exhilarating and intimate experience. Plus, the massage allows you to explore erogenous zones and heighten sensations, deepening your connection through playful, physical touch.
For an extra dose of fun, try Game 8 in Pillow Play—like that... but even sexier. Let your inner "massage therapist" come out as you get playful with dirty talk, pushing boundaries in a fun, safe space. Overcome any awkwardness and see how flirty, dirty, and outrageous you can get—no pressure, just pure, steamy fun!
4. Doctor and Patient
If you’re intrigued by power dynamics, exploring authority and submission through role play can be incredibly exciting. Imagine stepping into a doctor/patient scenario where one person takes charge and the other follows.
This dynamic can create a charged atmosphere where erotic tension and playful naughtiness build naturally. Let the power play enhance your experience, making each interaction more intense and thrilling.
For a similar dynamic, try Pillow Play's Game 13 – Artist and Muse! This kinky body-confidence game is a fun introduction to power play, where you'll not only explore new roles but also come away with some incredible nudes!
5. Stranger
Dive into the excitement of a fantasy where you and your partner are complete strangers. Imagine meeting by chance—perhaps at a bar or with a delivery person—embracing the thrill of fresh, spontaneous connection.
Enjoy the carefree allure of casual flirting and the thrill of going home with someone who feels completely new. By stepping into these roles and unfamiliar dynamics, couples can keep their connection feeling new, helping to maintain sexual attraction and bring an extra layer of unpredictability to their intimate moments.
6. Consensual Non-Consent
One intriguing fantasy for many is the experience of being sexually dominated or “taken” in a way that feels intense and powerful. This type of fantasy isn’t about real-life desires or actual non-consent; rather, it’s about exploring the thrilling sensations of surrender and control within a controlled, consensual setting.
To safely engage in this fantasy, consider incorporating elements like bondage, blindfolds, or role play scenarios where one person takes a dominant role and the other submits.
It’s crucial to maintain open communication and establish a safe word to ensure that boundaries are respected and everyone feels comfortable throughout the experience. This way, you can explore these hot and exciting dynamics while keeping the experience both safe and pleasurable.
Best,
Alice x
Alice Child - Somatic Sexologist, Sex Therapy & Sex Counsellor - helps people achieve happier and healthier sex lives through 1:1 sex coaching, couples sex counselling, hens parties, and workshops. Book a session here.
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