10 Benefits of Using a Stroker
- MC
- Nov 19
- 5 min read
Reviewed by Alice Child, Somatic Sexologist
Somatic Sexologist Alice Child explains the benefits of using a stroker and how it can help overcome erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and other common sexual concerns.
This guide contains general advice only. If you need more tailored support, please book in a session.
Using a stroker is like personal training for sex!
Sex can be amazing, but for many men, it doesn’t always feel that way. Issues like premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, or trouble maintaining an erection can turn sex from fun into stressful.
Often, the root of these challenges isn’t physical — it’s anxiety. Worrying about performance makes it harder to stay present, enjoy sensations, and connect with a partner.
My number one tip for these men is to practice alone. Introduce Mindful Masturbation, and to purchase something called a stroker.
To buy your own - check out the Love Glove on our online store!
What is a stroker?
A stroker is a soft, sleeve-like sex toy designed to fit over the penis. It’s typically used with lube to create smooth, realistic sensations that mimic the feeling of oral or penetrative sex.
Using a stroker isn’t just a masturbation aid—it’s a tool for sexual confidence, mindfulness, and pleasure. Whether you’re looking to reduce anxiety, improve your performance, or just enjoy your body more, it’s worth giving it a try!
For a full guide on how to use a stroker during mindful masturbation, check out this blog.
What are the benefits of using a stroker?
Using a stroker is like personal training for sex. It has multiple evidence-based sexual health benefits, helping you get the most out of your solo-pleasure and sex with a partner.
It's for this reason that a stoker is the #1 toy I recommend to my male clients.
Here are some of the benefits they experience:
Premature Ejaculation - Helping you Last longer
A stroker is one of the best tools for practicing control and improving sexual stamina. It is fantastic for anyone experiencing premature ejaculation or performance anxiety during partnered sex.
The silicone sleeve is designed to replicate the sensation of real sex—warmer, softer, and more slippery than using your hand. You can use it during solo pleasure to train your body to experience high levels of arousal without ejaculating as quickly.
By experimenting with techniques like edging—bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off—you can build awareness, control , and new neural pathways which help you last longer.
Delayed ejaculation - Helping you learn to orgasm during sex
Strokers can also help men who struggle with delayed ejaculation or find it difficult to orgasm with a partner. By learning to tune into softer, physical sensations rather than high fantasy (porn) or high friction (a strong grip, no lube, using a hand), men become more connected to their arousal responses. With practice, this makes it easier to orgasm during sex.
Research on the treatment of delayed ejaculation (studying men who were unable to reach orgasm during partnered sex but were able to reach orgasm on their own) found that men who started practising alone using a stroker were more likely to be able to orgasm with their partner during partnered sex, vs. the men who were not practising alone using a stroker. This shows how effective it can be as a training tool.
Mindful masturbation - helping you feel more present
Most men have learned to masturbate in a very specific way—fast, tight grip, high intensity, and often with porn. This “high friction” approach might work for stress relief or falling asleep, but it doesn’t replicate the pace or sensations of real sex.
A stroker changes that. It offers a slower, softer and warmer sensation that feels more like actual sex. Using lube makes it even more realistic, helping you get out of your head and into your body.
A great way to practice mindful masturbation is by practicing ‘edging’. Edging is when you bring yourself close to orgasm, then purposefully back off before you climax. You can repeat this as many times as you like. You can also try pairing it with deep breathing, movement, and sound for a mindful experience that engages all the senses. It’s a powerful way to build awareness, control, and deepen your connection to pleasure.
Stronger Orgasms - Feel more pleasure and arousal
It also just feels good! Who says sex toys should only be for women? Men deserve pleasure, too. Strokers add novelty and new sensations, making self-pleasure more exciting and enjoyable. With less friction and more texture, they allow you to explore different speeds sensations that hands alone can’t offer.
Novelty and trying new things is a huge aphrodisiac and experimenting with a stroker is an easy way to bring more curiosity and fun into your sexual routine.
Tune into your body - Get out of your head
Using a stroker helps you get our of your head and into your body. It helps you slow down and become more aware of the sensations in your body. Unlike the quick, goal-oriented approach of using your hand, a stroker encourages you to explore your body with curiosity — noticing any shifts in arousal, sensation, and pleasure.
Over time, this builds sensitivity and body awareness, and retrains your brain to associate pleasure with presence, not pressure. If you're quite reliant on using your mind to build arousal and get turned on, for example, with fantasy or porn, changing up the physical stimulation is a great way to practice getting aroused by what you can feel.
Porn Addiction - Reduce your reliance on porn
A stroker engages your physical senses, helping reduce reliance on visual stimulation like porn. Instead of relying on fantasy or an instant dopamine hit, you learn to connect with your body’s natural arousal and pleasure — a much more grounded and embodied experience.
Performance anxiety - feel more confident during sex
Performance anxiety often makes men hyper-focused on thoughts like “Will I come too fast?” or “Can I stay hard?”, which can make it nearly impossible to enjoy the moment.
Practicing with a stroker helps shift attention back to sensation. There’s no goal of orgasm or erection— just pleasure. It also helps men practice staying present and noticing sensations without pressure. Over time, this helps quiet overthinking, build confidence, and makes it easier to stay relaxed and connected during partnered sex.
Erectile difficulty - Stay hard and enjoy sex again
Erectile difficulties are often linked to anxiety or lack of connection with bodily sensation. Using a stroker helps build erotic mindfulness—shifting the focus from “performing” to “feeling.” They help men tune into the sensations, relaxation, and arousal rather than pressure or performance.
Think of it as retraining your body to respond to pleasure instead of stress. Over time, it also helps train your body to get used to a different sensation, to be less reliant on visual stimulation like porn and to feel more in tune with your body.
Handjobs - Improve your foreplay
Strokers aren’t just for solo use! They can add variety and fun, making partnered play even more exciting. They’re great for handjobs or exploring pleasure together like mutual masturbation. Introducing a new toy can also spark conversations about pleasure and new sensations, helping to build intimacy through shared curiosity.
Sexual Shame - give yourself permission for pleasure
Male sex toys are still surrounded by taboo, but it’s time to let go of the idea that they’re shameful and recognise that they’re great for men too! Using a stroker can help men see that self-pleasure and masturbation are healthy, normal parts of life, and that there’s nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to prioritising their own pleasure. It also allows you to create a pleasurable, mindful experience that helps you reconnect with your body and reclaim pleasure without shame.
For tailored support and advice, book in a session with me!
Best,
Alice x
Alice Child - Somatic Sexologist, Sex Therapy & Sex Counsellor - helps people achieve happier and healthier sex lives through 1:1 sex coaching, couples sex counselling, hens parties, and workshops. Book a session here.
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